The Awesome Person in the Terrible Hoodie - When I Grow Up

The Awesome Person in the Terrible Hoodie - When I Grow Up Roald Dahl print by KensieKate Oh, how I love that  Danielle Euzent from Urban Darling. Not only has she taken my man from hot to sizzling, shes helping us all in how to encourage your loved ones to make some positive changes. Its advice you could apply to your marriage, your career, or your wardrobe. Either way, its gonna look good on everyone. Last time I guest blogged here, I coincidentally ran into Michelle (and Friends) while walking home that evening.   Of course we talked about what you readers would want to learn about in my next blog post, and one of the first things that came up was “How do I get my husband to stop wearing those terrible hoodies?”   (Or, you know, insert whatever terrible item of clothing your significant other will not stop wearing.)   Excellent question!   While I cannot guarantee success, I do have some suggestions that might encourage your better half to make some positive changes. I find the most effective thing you can do in this situation is to provide “approved alternatives”.   So you hate his hoodies?   Maybe buy him a classed-up version, like a well-fitting French terry sweatshirt.   Still relaxed and comfy, but less juvenile and not so frequently associated with psycho-murderer-types.   The key is to make sure the replacement item is not too far of a jump from the item it is replacing.   You have to ease them into change if you want it to be successful and well-received See: “Compromise”. Another really great way to foster change is by rewarding good behavior (no, your significant other is not a dog).   Let’s say your lady friend always wears black, but really looks fantastic in colors.   Next time she puts on a blue shirt instead of her normal black shirt, you might want to let her know how gorgeous her eyes look in that shirt.   Baby steps here, Folks. The third thing you can do is hire them a personal stylist (like myself, *ahem*).   People tend to be more receptive to a professional third party who is not emotionally involved.   We are excellent at explaining things in new ways while remaining neutral, and because we clearly have this person’s best interests in mind we get results much quicker.   There is just something about hearing it from someone who hasn’t been nagging you for months that really gives a person that Lightbulb Moment. And my final bit of wisdom:   Never, ever, ever, ever, ever criticize, nag, yell, or be mean in another way.   Ultimately, they are just clothes, and you care about this person regardless of what they are wearing.   Making someone feel bad about themselves or their choices will never produce positive change and will only hurt your relationship.   There will come a time when you may have to decide to love them in their terrible hoodie, or not at all And may I just say:   I suggest choosing the awesome person in the terrible hoodie. Danielle Euzent is a Manhattan-based wardrobe stylist who loves flexing her creative muscle by working with a variety of clients- From firefighters, to new moms, to software developers, and beyond- She loves the challenge of helping you find your unique style and making it work for your life.   She is part of Urban Darling, a wardrobe styling agency with a simple mission: We believe that everyone has the right to look their best, within any budget. Learning to accept what you can’t change and focusing on your assets is how we operate. Let us assist in developing your personal style that fits your life {and your body}. You’ll be   free from worrying about what to wear and focus on what really matters = YOUR LIFE.